Bismillahi arrahmani al-raheem:
I was just reading my last post and not only was it unexplained, but I also forgot what I thought was unfair at the time (there are too many unfair things in life to keep track).
Yesterday, I listened to a dars by Sheikh Mahmood Al-Masry on Qanat Al-Hikmah (no, i dont have tv) that was called "The patience with the death of a son". It made me cry so much, but also made me realize that everything, EVERYTHING (in case u didnt see the first one) is compensated by Allah (SWT).
There are mainly 3 ahadith that I love. the first one was narrated in Al-Hakim and Al-Mustadrak that Abu Salamah (RA) narrated that he heard Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) saying: How excellent are five things and how heavy are they on the scale:
Saying Subhanallah (Glory be to Allah Who is above all faults)
Saying Alhamdulillah (Praise be to Allah) (3) La ilaha illallah (There is none worthy of worship except Allah)
Saying Allahu Akbar ( Allah is the Greatest )
and finally, A righteous son of a Muslim dies and the Muslims forbears patiently expecting a reward in return.
There is also another hadith that Allah (SWT) orders his angels to build a house for his slave who loses a son but patiently thanks Allah (SWT). Allah (SWT) asks the angels to build a house for him in jannah and to name it "Baytul Hamd" The house of gratitude.
This is because of the patience involved with losing a son.
There is also another hadith that (Im paraphrasing here)
There was one sahabi who loved the prophet very much and would always be with him. He had one son (his only son) who would always be with him and play around in the masjid. The prophet (S) asked him one day an interesting question. He asked, "do you love him?" and the man had an even stranger reply. He said, "May Allah love you as I love him."
Subhanallah, some time passed and this sahabi stopped coming to the prophet (S) or showing up and no one saw him. The prophet (S) finally asked about him and he was informed that this man's son had died and he (the sahabi) had refrained from coming out of his home. So the prophet (S) went to visit this man immediately and told him, "Would you rather that this son had lived with you in this dunya and you enjoyed his presence or that you go on the day of judgement and find him waiting for you in front of all the 8 gates of jannah and you enter from whichever you please?"
So this man without hesitation said, "Rather, that he wait for me in front of the 8 gates of jannah."
The prophet (S) immediately got a wahi from allah and told the man, "That is for you." Immediately the sahabah that were around the Blessed Prophet (S) saw an oppurtunity and asked, "Is this specifically for him or for all of us?"
And the prophet (salla allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: it is for all of you.
*tears* inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji3oon